It is really tempting to rush the subject of the G-Spot orgasm! But as we should not rush in trying to achieve it, (we have to understand it and nurture it) we also need to take our time to understand the aspects surrounding it.
So instead of telling you all to rush to bed tonight and assume the position, I am going to give you a little more explanation into the reasons why 'the gusher has been so misunderstood.
There are two main reasons for this:
1) The sensation prior to the G-Spot orgasm that causes 'the gusher' , or ejaculation, in women, is a feeling that we need to urinate, According to Perry and Whipple, "Women's response to direct stimulation of the G-spot is identical to the response of males when their prostate is stimulated," . My experience through talking to women is that most women hold back their sexual response, when they feel the sensation to urinate,out of fear of wetting on their partners. Perry theorized that this may explain why up to 25% of American females never have orgasms - they've learned early that to avoid the embarrassment of urinating during sex, they have to hold back.(this will be covered more fully in a later blog)
2) The lack of education and information available in the past regarding this, has led to confusion. Most women think that they have urinated. Believe me, if you have had this experience, this is not the case.
The myths that female ejaculation is the result of poor bladder control, or excess secretion which sweats from the vaginal walls and pools in the back of the vagina to squirt out during the strong muscle contractions of orgasm, have been proven wrong. For decades many women felt it dreadfully abnormal and tried to hide or avoid it. Physicians in their ignorance tried to cure it. By questioning many women, researchers have established that about one woman in five ejaculates (through her urethra rather than her vagina), some of the time but not always. The stimulation of the G-spot produces both her ejaculation and her deep uterine contractions.
So here is the good news... that sensation of feeling like you are going to urinate is not what you think it is... it is the beginning of something, and if you have felt that and held back, don't, that is the start of a G-Spot orgasm. I promise you that you are not about to urinate AND most of you wont experience the gusher, BUT, if you do, embrace it.... because you have just experienced an ejaculation.
We are still at the very beginning of this discussion. There is so much more to learn.
I am hoping someone is going to get something out of this... : )
Tomorrow is a busy day for me, so not sure if I will have time to post. If I don't I will be here Wednesday
Happy O's everyone
Sarah
Monday, 28 March 2011
Sunday, 27 March 2011
So What Do We Know About The G-Spot Orgasm?
You would think in this day and age, with female and sexual liberation, that all of us know about, and experience, the G-Spot orgasm. Despite this, the sad fact is, most women never have. We know about, it, we have heard about it, but so many of us are just not sure what it means and how to achieve it.
Ancient culture knew what we, in the Western World, have only just 'discovered'. Writings as early as 4th Century B.C.E. referred to women's 'white and red fluid'. Yet somehow along the way this information got lost and it was widely believed that women could only have a cliteral orgasm, a myth reinforced by the research of Masters & Johnson. The myth grew, and many women have lived with the belief that their clitoris was there only source of real sexual pleasure. However, there are some lucky women, who are given the natural ability to know better than the rest of us!
In, 1950, Berlin gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg discussed the G-spot area. Grafenberg reported that some women had a spot on the inside of the front wall of the vagina which, when firmly stimulated produced intense orgasms and in some women ejaculation of something thicker and slicker than urine during the strongest contractions of their orgasms.
After Grafenberg's discovery, no further research was done until Perry and Whipple's 1978 documentation and extensive study which confirmed the article of Dr. Grafenberg. Most sexologist now believe every woman has a G-spot but it may simply be unresponsive from lack of stimulation. It can be made to learn to be responsive, however, by proper stimulation.
So why were Doctors unaware of its existence prior to Grafenbergs discovery? Beverly Whipple gives us two reasons: "First, because it's on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, which is an area that's not palpated, and second, when it is palpated you get a sexual response and doctors are trained not to stimulate their patients sexually. But the gynecologists who palpated it with our direction all found it and said 'My goodness! It's there! You're right!' "
In addition to the lack of knowledge, there is the social stigma surrounding women and sex. Firstly, some (not all) women who experience the G-spot orgasm also experience what we call ' the gusher orgasm'. Again the lack of knowledge around this phenomenon caused those women who experienced this, to feel shame and guilt.
So what is the 'gusher orgasm'? Technically, it is female ejeculation. The G-spot need not be stimulated for ejaculation to occur, but most women say that their first ejaculation experience came from massaging their G-spot. It is estimated that only 10 to 40 percent of when who experience the the G-spot orgasm, experience the gusher orgasm, with some women experiencing it just once in a lifetime. (But don't panic if you are one of those who doesn't. The feeling is all the same!). The amount of fluid ejaculated varies hugely between women. According to Bevery Whipple it can vary from small amounts to approximately half a cup of coffee (whatever that means!). Some sources claim it is up to 2 litres, although this is hard to fathom, after all, where would it be stored? Some feedback would be interesting here, from any women who have experienced huge fluid ejaculaton!
Next post will go into this in further detail. Don't worry, we will get to the really good stuff soon!
Ancient culture knew what we, in the Western World, have only just 'discovered'. Writings as early as 4th Century B.C.E. referred to women's 'white and red fluid'. Yet somehow along the way this information got lost and it was widely believed that women could only have a cliteral orgasm, a myth reinforced by the research of Masters & Johnson. The myth grew, and many women have lived with the belief that their clitoris was there only source of real sexual pleasure. However, there are some lucky women, who are given the natural ability to know better than the rest of us!
In, 1950, Berlin gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg discussed the G-spot area. Grafenberg reported that some women had a spot on the inside of the front wall of the vagina which, when firmly stimulated produced intense orgasms and in some women ejaculation of something thicker and slicker than urine during the strongest contractions of their orgasms.
After Grafenberg's discovery, no further research was done until Perry and Whipple's 1978 documentation and extensive study which confirmed the article of Dr. Grafenberg. Most sexologist now believe every woman has a G-spot but it may simply be unresponsive from lack of stimulation. It can be made to learn to be responsive, however, by proper stimulation.
So why were Doctors unaware of its existence prior to Grafenbergs discovery? Beverly Whipple gives us two reasons: "First, because it's on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, which is an area that's not palpated, and second, when it is palpated you get a sexual response and doctors are trained not to stimulate their patients sexually. But the gynecologists who palpated it with our direction all found it and said 'My goodness! It's there! You're right!' "
In addition to the lack of knowledge, there is the social stigma surrounding women and sex. Firstly, some (not all) women who experience the G-spot orgasm also experience what we call ' the gusher orgasm'. Again the lack of knowledge around this phenomenon caused those women who experienced this, to feel shame and guilt.
So what is the 'gusher orgasm'? Technically, it is female ejeculation. The G-spot need not be stimulated for ejaculation to occur, but most women say that their first ejaculation experience came from massaging their G-spot. It is estimated that only 10 to 40 percent of when who experience the the G-spot orgasm, experience the gusher orgasm, with some women experiencing it just once in a lifetime. (But don't panic if you are one of those who doesn't. The feeling is all the same!). The amount of fluid ejaculated varies hugely between women. According to Bevery Whipple it can vary from small amounts to approximately half a cup of coffee (whatever that means!). Some sources claim it is up to 2 litres, although this is hard to fathom, after all, where would it be stored? Some feedback would be interesting here, from any women who have experienced huge fluid ejaculaton!
Next post will go into this in further detail. Don't worry, we will get to the really good stuff soon!
Victims of abuse and rape
I also hope that this website can be a forum for anyone needing to share experiences, or wanting advise (unqualified advise). Sometimes knowing there are people out there who have shared the same experiences as you, or having someone neutral be there, can help.
I will primarily post about the G-Spot until we have exhausted that subject. But we are not limited to this as a discussion piece. If needs be I will set up a separate blog for abuse/rape victims who want to have a safe place to express themselves. Lets see how that side of things goes, we can decide as a group.
This is a place for privacy, not gossip... or you can email me privately.
Sarah
I will primarily post about the G-Spot until we have exhausted that subject. But we are not limited to this as a discussion piece. If needs be I will set up a separate blog for abuse/rape victims who want to have a safe place to express themselves. Lets see how that side of things goes, we can decide as a group.
This is a place for privacy, not gossip... or you can email me privately.
Sarah
Waiver!
Just so you know: I am not claiming to by a psychiatrist, psychologist, sex therapist or rape crisis counsellor. This blog is for girl (and boy) chat about sex. If you electricute yourself while having sex hanging from a ceiling fan because I said I thought it might be fun, (and, no, I have not done that, yet) then I claim no responsibility!
March 27th 2011 - A little about me
Hi Everyone,
My name is Sarah, I am 46 years old, mother of a 21 year old daughter, an entrepreneur, and currently studying on the long road to become a registered sex therapist.
A few years ago, I became a Passion Party consultant. This was probably one of the best moves I have ever made in my life, because it CHANGED my life. To cut a long story short, through Passion Parties I developed a 'passion' for educating women about sex. This in turn led me to decide that I would like to do more and I made the decision to become a sex therapist and/or a rape crisis counsellor.
When I made this decision, I figured, experience counts right?! But no, it is a long road of hard studying, and it takes almost as long to become a registered counsellor, as it does to become a vet, or a doctor. For whatever crazy reason, I decided to pursue this goal, and here I am....
So why the blog? Well...for the same reason that educating women through Passion Parties brought me to the decision to change my career goals. I learned that in a room of, say, 15 women of ages 20 to 50, MAYBE one or two of them had experienced a G-Spot orgasm. The others were fascinated, they listened, they asked questions, they related to certain feelings I described to them, as preceding the event itself. Women WANTED to know, they wanted to experience this, they wanted the answers.
As being open, and discussing sex are what this blog is all about, I will tell you my own personal experiences at times, in the hope that it will help you. The first, and most important one, is about the G-Spot orgasm- I was 42 before I experienced my first one. So ladies, it is never too late, it is never unattainable, and hopefully this blog will help you get there. As I say to anyone who is interested "it may be a long journey, but don't give up, focus on the goal, you will never regret it".
I had one lady approach me four months after a party at her house. She told me "you have changed my life". She followed this by telling me that she and her husband had been married for 12 years, and always had a good sex life. But that since my G-Spot talk she had experienced numerous G-Spot orgasms, something she had never had before. She told me that her sex life had changed drastically and that her marriage had taken on a whole new exciting turn.
I hope other women will share their experiences, comment, ask questions. It is through asking that we develop the knowledge to achieve.
This is just the introduction, but in each blog I will discuss the biological and physical aspects involved. Sensations to watch out for, who to find your G-Spot and answer any questions you have.
Questions can be about anything you want to be honest!
Feedback is always more than welcome
I will try my best to interject humour alongside the seriousness, I am good it in a party atmostphere, I am not sure if I can carry it off in type!
I apologise for typo's. I am a busy woman, and sometimes I will blog in a hurry and not edit! Something I am terribly guilty of!
My name is Sarah, I am 46 years old, mother of a 21 year old daughter, an entrepreneur, and currently studying on the long road to become a registered sex therapist.
A few years ago, I became a Passion Party consultant. This was probably one of the best moves I have ever made in my life, because it CHANGED my life. To cut a long story short, through Passion Parties I developed a 'passion' for educating women about sex. This in turn led me to decide that I would like to do more and I made the decision to become a sex therapist and/or a rape crisis counsellor.
When I made this decision, I figured, experience counts right?! But no, it is a long road of hard studying, and it takes almost as long to become a registered counsellor, as it does to become a vet, or a doctor. For whatever crazy reason, I decided to pursue this goal, and here I am....
So why the blog? Well...for the same reason that educating women through Passion Parties brought me to the decision to change my career goals. I learned that in a room of, say, 15 women of ages 20 to 50, MAYBE one or two of them had experienced a G-Spot orgasm. The others were fascinated, they listened, they asked questions, they related to certain feelings I described to them, as preceding the event itself. Women WANTED to know, they wanted to experience this, they wanted the answers.
As being open, and discussing sex are what this blog is all about, I will tell you my own personal experiences at times, in the hope that it will help you. The first, and most important one, is about the G-Spot orgasm- I was 42 before I experienced my first one. So ladies, it is never too late, it is never unattainable, and hopefully this blog will help you get there. As I say to anyone who is interested "it may be a long journey, but don't give up, focus on the goal, you will never regret it".
I had one lady approach me four months after a party at her house. She told me "you have changed my life". She followed this by telling me that she and her husband had been married for 12 years, and always had a good sex life. But that since my G-Spot talk she had experienced numerous G-Spot orgasms, something she had never had before. She told me that her sex life had changed drastically and that her marriage had taken on a whole new exciting turn.
I hope other women will share their experiences, comment, ask questions. It is through asking that we develop the knowledge to achieve.
This is just the introduction, but in each blog I will discuss the biological and physical aspects involved. Sensations to watch out for, who to find your G-Spot and answer any questions you have.
Questions can be about anything you want to be honest!
Feedback is always more than welcome
I will try my best to interject humour alongside the seriousness, I am good it in a party atmostphere, I am not sure if I can carry it off in type!
I apologise for typo's. I am a busy woman, and sometimes I will blog in a hurry and not edit! Something I am terribly guilty of!
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